The Men and the Boys
When I'm bored at school (natch, procrastinating) I do a little self navel-gazing. I know that's kind of ridiculous, but sometimes I forget the things that I've written about, participated in, etc. and it's interesting to read about it. Isn't part of the fun of blogging to record what is going on in your life?
I was particularly interested in the posts I wrote about relationships and couple-dom in general. Last year I wrote about the engagement of two of my friends and how that was freaking me out. Well, one of them got married, the other one broke off the engagement and is now happier than she's ever been. AND everyday I hear about another person I know from high school, college, or that summer program I did getting married, and you know what? I am no longer that freaked out. Or maybe I am no longer shocked and appalled the way I once was. It was kind of how I felt when people I knew started having sex. At first it seemed crazy and intense and then slowly, as more people did it, it became easier to understand and process.
The other reason I think that I am more understanding and tolerant of marriage is that I am in a happy and well-adjusted relationship, something that was definitely not the case a year ago. This has changed my prospective on relationships--whether serious or not--because I now have a clearer version of who I was and what I wanted from my romantic relationships.
The unfortunate thing for me, and I think many others in my age group, is that I never really wanted all that much from my past relationships. I dated boys and I treated them that way, and in return I never got the emotional or physical intimacy I really desired. I consider myself a somewhat abrasive personality at times and basically there are two ways to take me: 1) laugh and call me on my bullshit or 2) allow me to steamroll over you and dictate the terms of our interactions. In the vast majority of my romantic encounters choice #2 has been the modus operandi, and quite simply that is no longer the case.
When you find someone that finds you intelligent, funny, caring, hot and laughs when you say something that you believe wholeheartedly, but is a little blunt and maybe a bit outrageous, well then, you've really got something.
In other words, I've found a man. And it makes all the difference in the world.
I was particularly interested in the posts I wrote about relationships and couple-dom in general. Last year I wrote about the engagement of two of my friends and how that was freaking me out. Well, one of them got married, the other one broke off the engagement and is now happier than she's ever been. AND everyday I hear about another person I know from high school, college, or that summer program I did getting married, and you know what? I am no longer that freaked out. Or maybe I am no longer shocked and appalled the way I once was. It was kind of how I felt when people I knew started having sex. At first it seemed crazy and intense and then slowly, as more people did it, it became easier to understand and process.
The other reason I think that I am more understanding and tolerant of marriage is that I am in a happy and well-adjusted relationship, something that was definitely not the case a year ago. This has changed my prospective on relationships--whether serious or not--because I now have a clearer version of who I was and what I wanted from my romantic relationships.
The unfortunate thing for me, and I think many others in my age group, is that I never really wanted all that much from my past relationships. I dated boys and I treated them that way, and in return I never got the emotional or physical intimacy I really desired. I consider myself a somewhat abrasive personality at times and basically there are two ways to take me: 1) laugh and call me on my bullshit or 2) allow me to steamroll over you and dictate the terms of our interactions. In the vast majority of my romantic encounters choice #2 has been the modus operandi, and quite simply that is no longer the case.
When you find someone that finds you intelligent, funny, caring, hot and laughs when you say something that you believe wholeheartedly, but is a little blunt and maybe a bit outrageous, well then, you've really got something.
In other words, I've found a man. And it makes all the difference in the world.
posted by Libberash at 12:14 PM
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